I am in pain. No, this ain’t melodrama, I am really in physical pain. My first wisdom tooth is growing! But why are they called that? Well that’s because people get it in their late teens or early-twenties and they’re more wisdom-y than when they were kids. My guess is, it just sounds better than “third molar tooth”
A quick lookup on Wikipedia shows that it won’t stop with just one, so we’ll call them wisdom teeth. Mom scared the hell outta me this morning when she said that this pain will last for 2 months as it grows. Yup, give yourself a pat on the back if you’ve already got them or brace yourself for them if you haven’t got them yet!
Being 21, it marks a sort of ‘coming of age’ for me. I suppose you should look back at all these glorious years and introspect on the lessons that you’ve learnt, and carry forward those memories. I’m gonna compile a list of things that I’ve picked up all these years.
You get what you give.
This line has been my #1 belief and is probably what drove me to name this blog so. You save your friend’s ass, he saves yours some other day. You push him down, you get food-poisoning. Simple.
Don’t hurt people.
As easy as it sounds, you unknowingly hurt someone all the time, be it your mom, your girlfriend or your neighbour’s dog. Don’t. Revenge is a bad thing. Apologize if you know you’ve done something wrong. Sorry is never the hardest word.
Listen to be heard.
Getting away from someone or being aloof when the going gets tough never helps. Problem? Of course everyone has problems. The key to seeing them through is talking. Sit down and have a man-to-man talk. Pour your heart out. Its just way better to let out all that built-up emotions than to silently suffer.
Watch out for opportunities.
One of my favourite proverbs is by Wayne Gretsky – “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”. I have a poster of it on my bedroom wall to keep reminding me of it everyday. I passed up being the school pupil leader for my best friend who then became popular and got into my high-school sweetheart’s pants. A happy life is one without any regrets. If you’d rather not regret anything you’ve done, don’t miss on any opportunities. It is so true that it comes knocking just once.
Have a closure.
When breaking up, get a closure. Life after that becomes so much easier when you part on good terms.
Listen to your heart.
This is more of a personal thing. I’ve always learnt to follow my instincts than my feelings. Its turned out better that way, so many times.
And girls. Its like a corollary of rule #1. You respect them, they like you. And its up to you to take things from there
Friends come a long way.
There are dark days when you don’t feel like talking to your parents or siblings. Surprisingly, you feel better after you’ve talked to your best friend. Everyone spends more time with friends than with anyone else. Love them and they’ll love you back. They’re the only ones who’ll let you bitch and rant all day and still love you. Slap them and have a fight, but make up soon. They’ll stand by you when you’re losing and celebrate with you when you’re winning. Be happy to have a friend like that.
Take a lot of pictures.
Sometimes you want to look back at those moments in your life when you were the happiest, the ones that would always bring tears to your eyes. Go grab your camera and click away!